The Do’s and Don’ts: Wedding Speeches

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So, you’ve been asked to give a toast to the newlyweds on their wedding day.

It’s a huge honor that also comes with a large amount of pressure. With our expert tips we’ve got you covered to create a stress-free, memorable, and tasteful toast.


Tell a Story  

Using your own personal experiences illustrate a story highlighting the couple and their relationship with each other. Just remember keep your speech appropriate by staying away from inside jokes and touchy subjects.

Make Sure To Be Yourself

Whether you’re sentimental, funny, or serious, great wedding toast come from the heart and are a reflection of the person giving it. Don’t be someone you’re not.

Speak Up

While giving your speech make sure to project so all of the guests can hear you.

Toast to the couple

At the conclusion of your speech, remember to raise your glass and wish the couple happiness as they transition into this new chapter of their lives.


Just Wing it

Come prepared with you have speech to be proud of. Practice it out loud in the mirror and for a friend who will be honest with you. This will make you more comfortable and also give you an approximate length. This is the time to really polish your speech.

Go Over Time

Long toasts can be deadly. Keep your toast to five minutes and under to leave the crowd wanting more.


It makes you look unprepared and nervous. Write down bullet points on a notecard and use those as a guide for your speech.

Have Too Much To Drink Beforehand

Having a cocktail or glass of wine before the toast to calm your nerves is fine but pace yourself.  Alcohol + a microphone = saying things you may regret.

Keep In Mind:

Being chosen to make a toast is your chance to honor the coupled on their big day – as well as – sending them off into their marriage with your best wishes. So don’t let stage fright keep you from enjoying and cherishing this moment with them.

Note to the Newlyweds:

Remember to thank your guests! They took the time to travel to where you needed them to be in order to help you celebrate your wedding. Showing them that you appreciate them is not only important, but a must. Your toast does not have to be long, just get your point across and you’re golden.